Qualifying retired and disabled military use the Aid and Attendance program.  At home, this payment covers the cost of caregiving to perform daily activities. These benefit can be paid to the veteran, the veteran’s spouse, or a family caregiver. In addition, it can pay for assisted living, memory care, or a nursing home care. In fact, it can be used in conjunction with other VA benefits such as a pension.
Lastly, similar programs exist in many states Medicaid programs for self-directed care.