The celebrations and family gatherings are a time of togetherness, laughter, and celebration. Families unite, conversations flow, and traditions are shared. But for older adults—especially those with declining mental abilities—large gatherings can be overwhelming. The noise, the movement, and the constant activity can create stress instead of joy.

If you’re hosting this year, a few thoughtful adjustments can make all the difference in ensuring your older loved ones feel comfortable, engaged, and included. Amid the cheer, it’s important to have a calm, quiet space where older guests can retreat if they feel overstimulated. This could be a cozy corner in a quieter room with a comfortable chair, soft lighting, and minimal noise. A peaceful space allows them to rest and recharge before rejoining the festivities.

Older adults have a lifetime of experiences and stories to share, but in the hustle of a big gathering, they may not always find the right moment to contribute. Make it easier for them to engage by adding conversation starters to the dinner table by adding old family photos to spark memories and storytelling and ask questions about childhood traditions, favorite holiday memories, or advice for younger generations  These small touches help create connections across generations and make older guests feel valued.

A crowded room filled with blaring TVs, loud music, video games, and excited pets can be overwhelming. Be mindful of the volume by keeping background noise at a reasonable level and choosing soothing holiday music instead of high-energy tunes. If needed, offer noise-canceling headphones for guests who are sensitive to sound. Older guests may need sturdy chairs with armrests to help them sit and stand comfortably. Avoid low, soft couches that can be difficult to get out of, and place chairs in spots where they can easily participate in conversations without feeling isolated.

Food is a big part of holiday celebrations, but dietary restrictions and preferences matter. Ask older guests in advance about any needs, whether it’s low-sodium options, softer foods, or avoiding certain allergens. A little planning ensures everyone can enjoy the meal without worry.

Falls are a major concern for older adults, before guests arrive, do a quick safety check. Remove throw rugs that could cause slips. Pick up pet toys, shoes, and electrical cords that may go unnoticed. Ensure walkways are clear and well-lit. A well-stocked bathroom can prevent embarrassment and discomfort. Have cleansing wipes, incontinence supplies, and extra towels available in an easy-to-find spot. A little preparation helps older guests feel at ease.

Older adults may tire more quickly than younger guests. Instead of pressuring them to arrive early and stay late, let them choose their own arrival and departure time. Whether they stay for an hour or the entire evening, respecting their limits shows love and understanding. The holidays are about bringing people together—and that means creating an environment where everyone, regardless of age or ability, feels welcome and included. By making small adjustments, you can transform your gathering into a joyful, accessible, and memorable celebration for all.